Inner Code

I believe everyone should have and follow an inner code to live by. Not having a code or inner set of rules to follow can lead to chaos. Regulating a proper response to any situation can make life easier. This is known by many names such as the law, rules, policy, a system, and a code. It doesn’t matter what anyone calls it because the fact is that there are still codes in life that everyone must follow. Whether forced on us, learned, or made up, every one of us has at least a few codes they follow.

Most codes and rules are forced on us the day we are born. Governments, schools, businesses, and even are parents and family all pressure us into following their codes. Many of these codes are good for us yet there are many others that are a matter of personal choice. Most inner codes fall within the personal choice category.

Everyone has a different option on what’s right and wrong. Not all laws and rules are justified 100% of the time. This is where an inner code becomes necessary and personal choice comes into play. Everyone learns right and wrong in a different manner and must make up their own inner code based on past life experiences.

Life experiences are what force us to follow our own inner code in order to keep us from making repeated mistakes in life. Not having an inner code when it is needed is the time that most people wish that they had one. It’s never too late to make one but never forget that it will be way too late to get one once you need one.

Excepting Responsibility

It seems that a lot of people don’t want to accept responsibility for their actions. Hardly a day goes by that I don’t witness this first hand or at least hear about it happening. Blaming others for your actions is a way of never having to admit that you did anything wrong. I think people feel they must do this in order to make themselves feel confident in their daily decisions. This is wrong in many ways yet for most people it is part of their everyday lives.

I never really thought about why not excepting responsibility was wrong until I had kids. When my kids reached a certain age they wanted answers to why things are the way the way are. I would tell them when they did something wrong that they had to tell me about it and they would answer with the simple question of “why”. As a parent, I realized that the answers I gave them would mold them into the adult they would become. It was then that the true meaning of why not accepting responsibility came to me. If you never admit that you did anything wrong then you will never learn from your mistakes.

Mistakes happen for a reason, which makes it ok to make a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes at one time or another. How mistakes are dealt with is the key to avoiding making the same mistake twice. After all, that’s why we study history. Always try to remember that when a mistake is made excepting responsibility is the only correct way to deal with it or another mistake will be made.

Someone to Depend On


Something everyone needs, but can’t always count on, is someone to depend on. From birth we are destine to depend on others for many different things. Certain people can be counted on for certain things at certain times. There are many different reasons to depend on others. Many may count on you, just as you count on them. Nobody is one-hundred percent dependable accept the voice inside that you call yours.

No matter how hard someone tries, they can never be one-hundred percent dependable. It seems strange that we all know this yet we still put our faith in others to be there when we need them. Having someone reliable will make for a good life and is the main reason most people don’t lose faith in others. This is not always the case once trust is lost.

When dependability is lost, trust and faith go with it. Many realize that some can only be trusted for certain things. Most of the time, it’s just the beginning of a total loss of faith. A decline in dependability is usually the signal that flags are defenses into action. There is only one person that will always be there and can never leave.

The one you silently talk to and depend on everyday is the only one who will be there every single day. Have faith in the reliable one that’s always by your side. You may know this person by the three different names but only you will know their name. Me, myself, and I are the ones who never leave. Never forget that they are permanently by your side and that you will always have someone to depend on.